I wear many hats and I specialize in grief psychology. Almost 27 years ago, my brother died in a tragic car accident—he was 26. I was a social worker at the Snowdon Y at the time, but then I had this traumatic experience. It took me about six years after he died for me to start working in the field of grief and bereavement. Because of my personal experience, I became incredibly passionate about it. I understand the shock, the challenges, and the horror of having to go through that experience. It took me 27 years to finally put together all my experiences in my recently published book.

“I wear many hats and I specialize in grief psychology. Almost 27 years ago, my brother died in a tragic car accident—he was 26. I was a social worker at the Snowdon Y at the time, but then I had this traumatic experience. It took me about six years after he died for me to start working in the field of grief and bereavement. Because of my personal experience, I became incredibly passionate about it. I understand the shock, the challenges, and the horror of having to go through that experience. It took me 27 years to finally put together all my experiences in my recently published book.”

“What would you say to yourself after you just lost your brother, knowing what you know today?”

“I would tell myself what I tell everyone that I meet, even though they don’t believe it: the “you” that was, will never be anymore, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to have a bad life and you’ll never be happy. You can and you will find your way through this. I can’t tell you how long, I can’t tell you when, or what it’s going to look like, but you can. We can’t change what happened, but we have a choice. You may hate the choices that you have, but you always have a choice. And my choice was to not let this be a horrible mark in my life, and live in negative gloom and doom. It was to take what happened and make something good of it. My choice was to learn and to take my experience and make it into something where I can help others. 25 years later in the field of social work, I still just want to make a difference.”

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